Monday, September 9, 2013

Christian Roles and "Real" Men and Women


(If you are not a Christian, you most likely do not have the same beliefs. I'm not asking for a debate, just stating my opinion. You're welcome to do the same, but not in an argumentative way. This is a controversial subject, keep that in mind.)

The point was brought up that since people are not "supposed" to tell women what real women should do, women shouldn't do the same to men.

This, in my mind applies both ways to some degree. But mostly when it comes to body types and general stereotyping.

This image is one example of a WRONG stereotype:

Some people have a natural body type that is TINY. Different people like different boy types. That doesn't make a skinny girl anything less, not the man who is attracted to her.

The same applies to guys' emotions:

Having emotions and showing them makes the no lass of a man, only human. They weren't created to be emotionally dead and stoic. 

So, as we see, society tries to force both genders into molds.

But, I think there are roles that "real" men and women were meant to fill, and when filling them they have matured from being immature children to "real" men and women. 

For instance, I believe, according to the Bible, that women should dress modestly (in respect of her Christian brothers) and humble, submissive. That doesn't mean that women should just be passive all the time and do whatever they're told. Or that our only purpose is to get married and serve our husbands.  She is to be helpful and kind. A good word would be soft. not physically, but in character. She serves others before her self and practices selflessness.

Proverbs 31:20-21 She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. 
1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 

Ephesians 5:22-23, 33 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior… However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

I also believe that men and  husbands should be leaders. They are also commanded to love their wives, which would entail treating them correctly. They are to be strong and courageous. They should be hard workers and mature in their ways.

First Corinthians: Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.

When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.

Ephesians: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

So, the point I'm getting at is that being a "real" man or woman, not in the physical sense, is more about an attitude or mind set that comes with maturity and wisdom.

We are to love one another. That means treating everyone with respect and kindness, no matter the gender.


  1. Woohoo!! You go, girl!! :)
    I agree with everything.

  2. This was an AMAZING blog post. Thank you so much. :)

  3. I'm not christian, but this is a great post. I think women are equal to men (not physically, of course) but women should definitely "dress modestly"

  4. Yeeees and AMEN! I especially get annoyed with the "skinny bashing". I'm one of those naturally tiny women, short and thin, but I'm NO less of a woman! I believe too, that God created us and in doing so He did not make any mistakes, or as my dad used to say, He "doesn't make junk".