Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Things People Need to Stop Doing

As I write this, I am in a very irritable mood. Therefore, everything people do annoys me. So I'm going to make a list.

People using text speak. It's not that hard to write out "you"!

Basing intelligence on test scores. People can be geniuses, and not be good at math.

Referring to being "geeky" or "nerdy" as a bad thing. I basically live on the internet, and I'm a lot more cultured than some people who don't.


People who still comment "first" on posts.

The every day selfie. I mean, if you have to post one every day to get compliments on how you look, you probably have the kind of face I want to forget, not be reminded of every day.

The creepy selfie. This is the one where you look awful and I question whether you actually looked at the picture before posting it.

Photographers who turn pictures black and white, except for the eyes. That's been over used and looks unprofessional in most cases.

Bad photographers who charge way too much.

People who call expressing differences of opinion "fights".

Over-used memes.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

I'm Now On Youtube!

Most of you are fans of my Facebook page, so already know this, but I have a YouTube now!
Here's the first video!

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Seven Problems With Teen Dating

       I pose this question to Christian, teenage girls: Why are you dating?
     Too often young girls use boys to validate themselves. Having someone to tell them they're pretty and to call their boyfriends makes them feel good about themselves. The problem is, this backfires BIG TIME. In saying you "need" a boyfriend, you're saying that God isn't enough. I'm not saying that dating is the only means of doing this (I am often guilty of the "I need that book", "I need to watch that movie", "I need one more cookie"), but this post is focusing on dating, not our other idols (YES, idols).

Girls: get to know the guy BEFORE you date them, before you open your heart to them. Dating should come AFTER close friendship. You'll want to marry your best friend, right?

Here are a list a problems with teen dating:

1. You're still getting older, changing and figuring out who you are. Any relationship that is formed in your teens is almost guaranteed to fail. This will leave you feeling more insecure and wondering "what's wrong with me".  If such a relationship does not end in a break up, but survives in young marriage, that marriage will most likely not last. Young marriages end in significantly higher divorce rates than people who enter into such a union when they are older and more mature.

2. YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU DATE! Girls, the more you date, the more you define yourself by the guy you're dating. Take your teen years to find your own identity. Emotions now are driven by unstable hormones, stress and growing up.

3. Dating takes away from your relationship with God. The purpose of dating is to find the right spouse; someone who is godly, kind, respectful and honest (along with whatever else may be on your list of necessities for a future husband). But in finding a spouse, you should be sure that you are prepared to be the same.If you're dating you don't have time or concentration to fully develop your relationship with God. You should be focused on training yourself.

4. Teenage guys just aren't worth it. Females mature much faster than males. Pretty much no teenager guy is going to be mature enough to be the man that you'll need in life. He's just a boy.

5. Right now, neither you nor the person who you are to marry are probably in a place to support you and a family. When you start dating you should be stable, financially, spiritually and emotionally. You need to marry someone who has a plan for his life, one that follows God's commands and will be conducive to marriage and family living.

6. Guys are not for emotional comfort. Teenagers feel emotions more strongly than they will the rest of their lives. Infatuation is not love. Feeling good is not love. Don't follow feelings that can change in a few months. You are emotionally fragile and need to lean on God, not an immature boy who will, in the end, most likely hurt you and leave you more insecure. The more you date, the more little pieces of your heart you lose and the less it will mean when you actually are old enough to date.

7. Lust. Sure, lust is always a temptation. but in teenager years, with racing hormones fighting for release, it can be a major struggle. Lust in itself is sin, then lust leads to action. Premarital sex (and by sex I do not mean only intercourse, but any sexual action) is sin. It will be a temptation you'll have to deal with, but being in a relationship makes it worse.  Too many girls fall back on the whole "I'm technically a virgin" thing. purity is as much a frame of mind as it is physical. Sexual immorality, STD's and teenage pregnancy are products of immature dating.

     There is not magically age when you are suddenly ready to date. But I can promise you, you're not ready to get married at fourteen, so there is no point in dating. It is an individual decision, each person being different, when you should start dating. If you enter into a relationship the right way, and are with the person you are meant to marry, it will all fall into place.

       Sure, we'll get tired of waiting, but in the end, won't it be worth it? Just think of the day when you'll get to spend your entire life with the right person. Someone who will take care of you with loyalty and love. Avoid prematurely broken hearts and baggage by wisely investing in friendships and conditioning yourself to be a helper. dating isn't something to be taken lightly, though in our society it is seen as recreation. It's NOT. It's your future, your soul and it is IMPORTANT. Talk to parents, pastors, and other Christian adults about your relationships. Guard your heart against those who will only harm you (never date a non-Christian).
Here is an article on what we should train ourselves to be; how to be godly and the importance of Christian womanhood:http://cupcakestolightsabers.blogspot.com/2013/09/christian-roles-and-real-men-and-women.html

"Dating without intention of marriage is like going to the store with no intention of buying anything." 

Ten Things to (NOT) Do

1. Wear a spandex Spider man suit to a job interview.
2. Wear an evil clown costume to a psychologist's office.
3. Drugs
4. Race a police officer in NYC.
5. Sign in public with headphones on.
6. Fall asleep while cutting lemons.
7. Go to the premier of a Marvel movie dressed a Batman.
8. Drink ten cups of espresso then try to forge a signature on an important document.
9. Sit in the shower at night until someone comes in to use the bathroom. Jump out and grab them.
10. Push the help buttons in Lowe's. Wait for the employ to come and ask if you can help them (or just stand and stare). Then go to the next isle and do the same thing.

Monday, September 9, 2013

Christian Roles and "Real" Men and Women


(If you are not a Christian, you most likely do not have the same beliefs. I'm not asking for a debate, just stating my opinion. You're welcome to do the same, but not in an argumentative way. This is a controversial subject, keep that in mind.)

The point was brought up that since people are not "supposed" to tell women what real women should do, women shouldn't do the same to men.

This, in my mind applies both ways to some degree. But mostly when it comes to body types and general stereotyping.

This image is one example of a WRONG stereotype:

Some people have a natural body type that is TINY. Different people like different boy types. That doesn't make a skinny girl anything less, not the man who is attracted to her.

The same applies to guys' emotions:

Having emotions and showing them makes the no lass of a man, only human. They weren't created to be emotionally dead and stoic. 

So, as we see, society tries to force both genders into molds.

But, I think there are roles that "real" men and women were meant to fill, and when filling them they have matured from being immature children to "real" men and women. 

For instance, I believe, according to the Bible, that women should dress modestly (in respect of her Christian brothers) and humble, submissive. That doesn't mean that women should just be passive all the time and do whatever they're told. Or that our only purpose is to get married and serve our husbands.  She is to be helpful and kind. A good word would be soft. not physically, but in character. She serves others before her self and practices selflessness.

Proverbs 31:20-21 She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. 
1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 

Ephesians 5:22-23, 33 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior… However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

I also believe that men and  husbands should be leaders. They are also commanded to love their wives, which would entail treating them correctly. They are to be strong and courageous. They should be hard workers and mature in their ways.

First Corinthians: Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.

When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.

Ephesians: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

So, the point I'm getting at is that being a "real" man or woman, not in the physical sense, is more about an attitude or mind set that comes with maturity and wisdom.

We are to love one another. That means treating everyone with respect and kindness, no matter the gender.

Sunday, September 8, 2013

I'm Ready For Fall!

I am so ready for fall. It's such a beautiful time of the year.
Here are my reasons why:
Sweaters. I hate being hot, which I am most of the summer, and I love the feeling of getting warm when it's cold. We turn down the heat inside and it's perfect sweater weather.
Hot drinks. During the summer I don't drink hot drinks because... it's hot... But during the fall they're soothing and delicious!
The Smell. Summer brings out nasty smells, while fall makes the air smell wonderful!
Relaxation. fall is so relaxing.