Friday, December 7, 2012

Modesty Interviews



Interview with Lindsey S.:
Are you a Christian?
Yes, very much so 
How important, on a scale of one to ten, to you think modesty is?
10
Do you think modesty is an issue in male dressing?
I don’t think it’s as big an issue for guys because girls aren’t as visual as guys are. A girl can see a guy with his shirt off and doesn’t stumble or get distracted in the same way. When a guy sees a girl dressed immodestly it can cause him to picture her naked or tempt him in other ways. It is not the same way for girls.
How does seeing an inappropriately dressed girl affect you? (For girls)
It frustrates me for the guy’s sake. I wish she would cover up and not be trying to draw attention to herself. I also don’t want my brothers in Christ to have to see her and have her cause him to stumble. It can be disgusting to me because of this frustration. But I also may wonder what is going on in the girl’s life that is causing her to feel like she needs to dress that way. It makes me think she has a low view of herself.
Does seeing immodestly dressed girls affect your self confidence?
Not usually. More often I question their self-confidence since they feel they need to show off their body in order to gain attention from guys.
How do you define modesty?
Modesty is wearing enough or loose enough clothes to cover or not accentuate parts of the body or too much of body.
Immodesty?
Immodesty is not wearing enough clothing or wearing too tight of clothing so as to reveal parts of the body that are meant for a spouse.
Do you think tank tops are inappropriate?
I think it depends on the tank top. I think it depends on how tight it is or how low cut it is. I think tank tops that have at least an inch thick strap are fine. Spaghetti strap shirts can vary, it just depends on how you wear them.
What are your standards for shorts length?
It depends on the girl. Everyone is a different size so it’s not really a good idea to say “finger tip length” because sometimes that’s extremely long, sometimes it’s too short. I think mid-thigh is usually a good standard. It’s usually not hard to tell based on looking at someone, who is being modest and who is not. If it’s to the point where someone’s butt cheeks are hanging out, it’s definitely too short. But I don’t think it’s necessary to wear knee length shorts all the time either.
What are your clothing standards?
I try not to show any cleavage at all. I layer quite often to make sure my chest is covered. I don’t wear clothes that are skin tight. I will wear spaghetti straps and shorts in the summers but they are usually layered and long enough to be modest. I never show any stomach, I always make sure my shirts are long enough and am very conscious of making sure my shirt doesn’t come up when I sit down. I might wear a strapless dress for a special event but not in everyday casual dress. I wear swimsuits that keep my stomach and chest covered, I don’t think bikinis are modest.
Do you think you dress in a way that would be a stumbling block for a guy?
No I don’t think so. I try very hard not to draw attention to my body because that belongs to my future husband. My body is not for anyone else. Don’t advertise it if it’s not for sale. That means guys who aren’t my husbands don’t get previews.
How often do you consider how modest your clothing is?
Well I go to a Christian Bible college that has a dress code so I have to be pretty mindful of it fairly often. Even in the summers I try to dress modestly though.

Interview with Shane M.

What are your biggest stumbling blocks?
 My biggest stumbling blocks would have to be cleavage, yoga pants, really tight jeans, daisy duke shorts, and super tight fitting clothes.
Are short shorts a stumbling block?
 Yes.
What do you think of a girl who dresses inappropriately?
 Usually that she has low self esteem or she wants sex, or both.
Does what a girl is wearing change how you think of her? 
Yes, especially since I am a more shy, bashful guy, when a girl is dressed immodestly, I will be less at ease and it makes her harder to talk to, because I'm more nervous, trying not to stare.
Are certain kinds of tights/leggings a stumbling block? 
Yes, unless they are covered by a skirt.
Are tight jeans a stumbling block? Yes
Can certain hairstyles be a stumbling block?
 No. At least for me it's not
Lip gloss?
 Again, for me at least, no.
Is seeing a girl take of a hoodie a stumbling block, even if there is no skin showing?
 No.
Are tank tops a stumbling block? 
The spaghetti strap tank tops are. And even for the broader sleeved ones, if the neck is cut to low they are as well.
Are long sleeved shirts, that are tight, a stumbling block?
 If the neck is cut too low.
Does seeing a girl put on makeup/chap stick/lip gloss affect you?
 No.
Are sleeveless shirts/dresses a stumbling block?
 If you are talking about tube tops/dresses, yes. Even more so if she has to keep adjusting it and pulling it up. If you are talking about spaghetti straps, yes as well. Broader strapped shirts and dresses are fine if the neck is not too low.
Can a girl be attractive in a way that is not a stumbling block?
 Absolutely. In fact, I find the "Plain Jane" look to be quite attractive. Honestly, if a guy really likes (or loves) you, he will find you attractive no matter what you are wearing. He will find you just as attractive when you get dressed up as he does when you wear khaki's and a turtleneck.
What advice would you give to girls when dressing so as not to be a stumbling block?
 Keep it simple. If you have to ask yourself if it's too revealing, then it probably is. Don't accentuate your boobs or your butt. Accentuate your smile.

Interview with Madison A.:

Are you a Christian?
I am not Christian I am LDS but I believe in Christ
ten
How important, on a scale of one to ten, to you think modesty is?
ten
Do you think modesty is an issue in male dressing?
Yes
How does seeing an inappropriately dressed girl affect you?
It makes me feel bad for them
How do you define modesty?
Modesty is how we show respect for our bodies since they are a gift from God
Immodesty? 
Immodesty is kind of like an insecurity that girls have so they dress that way to feel better about themselves
Does seeing immodestly dressed girls affect your self confidence?
Sometimes because I can tell "oh they have smaller thigh's than me" bla bla bla haha
Do you think tank tops are appropriate?
Yes
What are your standards for shorts length?
Past the knees
What are your clothing standards?
No tanktops no skin showing on the stomach/ chest
Do you think you dress in a way that would be a stumbling block for a guy?
No
How often do you consider how modest your clothing is?
I consider it all the time just to make sure.

Interview with Michael R.:
Are you a Christian?

Yes
How important, on a scale of one to ten, to you think modesty is?

9
Do you think modesty is an issue in male dressing?

Yes.
How does seeing an inappropriately dressed girl affect you?
I have to exercise my will and look away.
How do you define modesty?
"Clothing is immodest if it hinders others from looking at your face."
Immodesty?
Immodesty is showing off your body. I never realized that makeup could be a stumbling block, probably because I don't think much of girls who think they need makeup, and I have never kissed a girl.
What are your biggest stumbling blocks?
I'll think about it. Tight clothing is one.
Are short shorts a stumbling block?
Yes
What do you think of a girl who dresses inappropriately?
She is not secure in who she is, or she does not know what she is doing.
Does what  a girl wear change how you think of her?

 What a girl wears does change how I think of her.
Are certain kinds of tights/leggings a stumbling block?
No.
Are tight jeans a stumbling block?
Yes.
Can certain hairstyles be a stumbling block?
No.
Lip gloss?
No.
Is seeing a girl take of a hoodie a stumbling block, even if there is no skin showing?
No.
Are tank tops a stumbling block?
Yes.
Are long sleeved shirts, that are tight, a stumbling block?
Could be.
Does seeing a girl put on makeup/chap stick/lip gloss affect you?
No.
Are sleeveless shirts/dresses a stumbling block?
No.
Can a girl be attractive in a way that is not a stumbling block?
Yes, definitely. One of the most attractive girls I know never wears makeup or immodest clothing.
What advice would you give to girls when dressing so as not to be a stumbling block?
Have a close male friend (even father or brother) who you can ask to evaluate clothing, and don't let your curves show.


Interview with Kimberly V.:

Are you a Christian? 
Yes!
How important, on a scale of one to ten, to you think modesty is?
Assuming this is just in general with your overall life style, I'd say it's about a 7 or 8, because how you're dressed is one of the first things that clues people in to what kind of person you are, whether that's accurate or not.
Do you think modesty is an issue in male dressing?
Yes.
How does seeing an inappropriately dressed girl affect you?
Personally, I get kind of disgusted. If you're trying to impress boys or trying to get a boyfriend by dressing like that, you're going to attract the wrong kinds of boys.
How do you define modesty?
Well, modesty is very subjective, but I would personally define it as something (clothes) that doesn't "put [a] stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister." (Romans 14:13)
Immodesty? 
The opposite of modesty! 
Does seeing immodestly dressed girls affect your self confidence?
No.
Do you think tank tops are appropriate?
It depends. Some are deffinitely inappropiate, but others are fine. I would say in general, tanktops that have spaghetti straps are inappropriate.
What are your standards for shorts length?
My standards for my shorts are whatever I feel comfortable in and can move in. (I need them movable, because I mostly only wear shorts for sports)
What are your clothing standards?
My standards are clothes that I'm comfortable in!
Do you think you dress in a way that would be a stumbling block for a guy?
No. I dress about as modestly as you can get! 
How often do you consider how modest your clothing is?
I rarely do.


Interview with Samuel V.:
Are you a Christian?

Yes
How important, on a scale of one to ten, to you think modesty is?
10, but depends on your definition of modesty
Do you think modesty is an issue in male dressing?
Yes
How does seeing an inappropriately dressed girl affect you?

It might affect me a little, but I usually try to not pay attention to it
How does seeing an inappropriately dressed girl affect you?
How do you define modesty?

Not a lot of skin showing.
Immodesty?
Booty shorts, low shirts
What are your biggest stumbling blocks?
Visually, basically bikinis
Are short shorts a stumbling block?
Not really
What do you think of a girl who dresses inappropriately?
She was either brought up thinking that was okay or she's doing it out of rebellion.
Does what  a girl wear change how you think of her?
I don't usually judge people based off how they look until I get to know them
Are certain kinds of tights/leggings a stumbling block?
Nope
Are tight jeans a stumbling block?
Nope
Can certain hairstyles be a stumbling block?
Nope
Lip gloss?
Nope
Is seeing a girl take of a hoodie a stumbling block, even if there is no skin showing?
Are tank tops a stumbling block?
Nope
Are long sleeved shirts, that are tight, a stumbling block?
Not really.
Does seeing a girl put on makeup/chap stick/lip gloss affect you?
Depends on the girl.
Are sleeveless shirts/dresses a stumbling block?
Not really/depends on the girl.
Can a girl be attractive in a way that is not a stumbling block?
Yup
What advice would you give to girls when dressing so as not to be a stumbling block?
Just don't show a lot of skin.
Interview with Katelyn N.:

Are you a Christian?
Yep!
How important, on a scale of one to ten, to you think modesty is?

I'd say 8 or 9... because in the bible, it specifically says to not wear anything that shows the thighs, because if the thighs or show, then nakedness is showed. And since the thigh starts at the knee, that would make every summer outfit, even swimsuits, show your "nakedness." It also says to not wear anything that pertains to men, which pretty much means that women should always wear skirts (BELOW the knee) and men should always wear pants. However, irish men wear kilts, which are seen as skirts which relate to women, and women wear pants all the time. Now this is the old testament law, and since Jesus came we are no longer bound by old testament laws, and no dress code was established in the new testament.Since there is now no established dress code, we can't be judged to a certain standard of a dresscode to abide by. Since there is no dress code, many still think that we need to follow the old testament law. These people include many pentacostals and mennonites. Orthodox Jew women abide by this law as well.

Do you think modesty is an issue in male dressing?

Oh yes. Sagging is gross.

How do you define modesty?

Dressing how you think is appropriate.
Does seeing immodestly dressed girls affect your self confidence?

  • Not at all.
    It sets a good example of what NOT to wear!

    Do you think tank tops are inappropriate?

    Idk, but mine are short. 
    No butts hanging out.


    What are your clothing standards?


     like all clothes? Uhhhh... I don't really have "standards", I just don't wear innapropriate stuff haha.
    No boobs hangin out or anything like that...
    Do you think you dress in a way that would be a stumbling block for a guy?
    Nope
    I think 


     How often do you consider how modest your clothing is?
    Every morning I get dressed. I make sure my shirt is pulled up and whatnot.

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